As children, most of us have probably experienced being around a bully. It may not be that we were the targets, but maybe our friends or our other classmates.
Nothing much was made of bullies in the past. They were just permanent fixtures in school and anywhere else. However, these days, a lot of people are becoming more and more vocal about ending child and teen bullying.
It’s all agreed that the practice of bullying is not healthy at all. However, after all these years, these characters still remain haunting other children and teenagers.
When it comes to the subject of bullying, a lot of literature has been published about the matter. Likewise, lots of books have been published on how child and teen bullying can be prevented. This post will highlight three of them. Here they are:
by: Jonathan Bennett & David Bennett
There are teens who crave to be popular, but there aren’t any guides – in the form of books or programs – that they can lean on for advice. Jonathan Bennett and David Bennett, both teachers, saw the difficulty that teenagers went through not being able to have lots of friends and dates. They saw both the frustration and the unhappiness that these brought the kids. This is why they made it a goal to help out these children by teaching them about social skills to become more popular.
That was the idea that birthed the book The Teen Popularity Handbook: Make Friends, Get Dates, And Become Bully-Proof. The book is a result of several years of research into teenagers and popularity. The Teen Popularity Handbook makes use of “popularity secrets” that are backed by science to help kids become more confident, attractive, fun and popular. Equipped with all these principles, kids then learn how to defend themselves against bullies.
The target audience of The Teen Popularity Handbook is unpopular and bullied teens as well as parents who are looking for a resource that could help their children. Both Bennetts have spent years looking into the science behind attractions and success in all social situations and the conclusions were used to formulate the ideas presented in the book.
The subject matter of the book is pretty simple: popular people are always surrounded by close friends, fans and even secret admirers. They are gifted with the skills that allow them to form romantic relationships and avoid the very problematic bullying issue faced by others. This is because they have extreme confidence in themselves making them more than capable to defend themselves against others.
The said book showed that becoming popular is highly probable. When you look at someone popular, they have certain ways of thinking and acting that make them appreciated by others. Through this book, readers can learn how they too can acquire these traits to make them loved by others.
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by: Dr. Cherrye Vasquez
Clique, Clique, STOP is another book that focuses on the formation of groups in school. In this book, the author Dr. Cherrye Vasquez introduces the protagonist Isabella who is Mexican-American. We meet her as she makes her way to the first day of school. She expected that the kids at her school would be Mexican-American too, but she was really in for a shock.
When Isabella got to her new school, she found that the kids were from a variety of racial groups. However, the biggest problem there was that there were also too many cliques. Faced with these kinds of scenarios, it was clearly hard for Isabella to fit in her new school.
Isabella grew tired of the way things were at school. She grew tired at seeing so many divisions. This is when she began her quest. It was fairly simple in nature: establish a heritage club so that students can come together and learn about each other. They can learn about each other’s heritage, what they like and what they don’t like. Through this form of sharing, maybe the students can learn that they are more similar than they are different.
Author Cherrye S. Vasquez is a public school administrator and an adjunct professor. She has a couple of educational attainments which include being a Doctor of Philosophy in Curriculum & Instruction (Texas A&M University), a Master of Education in Special Education (Prairie View A&M University) and a Bachelor of Arts in Speech Pathology/Audiology (Sam Houston State University).
Vasquez’s specializations are in multi-cultural education. She holds certifications in Early Childhood Handicapped, Mid-Management and Educational Diagnostician.
Her platform centers in diversity and bullying issues. She believes that children should love and have pride for who they are. She believes that children should have belief in themselves and their identity. She advocates for empowerment as something that is very essential to the overall development of a child.
Vasquez lives in Houston with her husband, Roy, and her daughter, Kelly.
There is no place for bullying in this world, and kids should be taught about the damage that it does to others. Parents should be equally responsible for how their children (and should equip them with proper information and resources) – like the books listed here – to help them better understand and provide solutions. Doing so ensures that a child doesn’t become a bully and they become equipped with the skills necessary to stand up for themselves.
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by: Robert HammondThe Light talks about a young man named Abel Adams who has trouble fitting within his community. Here’s a short overview of what’s inside this book from Amazon:
“Have you seen the Light?” Abel Adams, a brilliant but troubled young misfit desperately seeks freedom, love, and spiritual enlightenment while battling drug addiction, dark forces, and strange temptations. He zigzags through a mysterious labyrinth of crime and the occult along his hazardous quest toward redemption and recovery. The Light is the mystical odyssey of a prodigal son whose spiritual journey tumbles like a rollercoaster through a wild mix of philosophical, psychological, and religious experiences amid the turbulent post-1960s counterculture.
The author, Robert Hammond, is a popular and award-winning screenwriter and producer with a Master’s Degree in Creative Writing. He is a great inspiration not only to those bullied teens and children, but to everyone who wants to live a successful and meaningful life.
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Preparing Children on How to Deal with Bullying Properly
A lot of questions have been raised about why bullied do what they do. “Why do kids turn to bullying?” has been a subject of many a talk yet the answer always remains fairly simple: the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate or impose domination over others in an aggressive manner is simply a way to cope with social problems.
Bullying somebody becomes a whole lot easier rather than working things out, managing emotions and learning to solve problems. It becomes the easiest way out for children and rather than veer away, some children choose to go down that route.
Parents are very much responsible for informing their children about bullying and how they can prevent themselves from becoming victims. A couple of things mothers and fathers can do include:
- Teaching children about bullying as early as possible. Parents owe it to their children to inform them about what a bully is and what they do.
- Teach a child about accountability. Make your child understand that they cannot vent out their frustrations on anyone. They have to be held accountable for their actions.
- Equip a child with the necessary skills that prevents them from becoming bullies. Your child should learn how to resolve conflicts and manage emotions as early as possible. They need to know how to compromise, how to share with others, how to sacrifice and how to handle injustice.
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